The Devil You Know
and the
Devil You Don’t
and the Law of Attraction
By Gary
Nordgren
As you start into Law of
Attraction you find yourself confronted with your life that you created without much awareness on
your part of how your past intentions, assumptions, thoughts, and actions created the conditions of
your life.
Results you still are in
– that you might find as a something from your past default thinking, feeling, and believing –
partners that didn’t work out, businesses that have failed, adventures that didn’t turn out quite
like you wanted, a child who acts out, a friend leaving your friendship circle, several broken
promises, an abusive spouse or partner, a love that is lost.
Many of us get used to
disappointment in our lives as an expectation. Many of us start to have a good thing and expect
that ol’e devil to raise his ugly head to cause us the pain we don’t want.
We as human beings get
used to something and think that is our reality. Maybe there is a tiny variation on that theme, but
we just might expect the drama of not having what we want or desire as part of our
lives.
Do you find yourself
failing at the key places you desire most to be successful? Or maybe there isn’t as much
satisfaction as you thought there would be and you feel a little hollow even when you do
succeed?
Being an entrepreneur
for over 10 years myself, I have found myself making many plans and finding my expectation of those
plans of succeeding and them actually succeeding to be actually somewhat different than
expected.
I owned a computer
business for 7 years. I was passionate about doing the repairs and the computer sales when I
started. I personally enjoyed learning about technology quite a bit. I loved people and started a
business without any training for a business. I saw my brother and his wife start a carpet cleaning
business that was successful and I wanted to have a successful business also.
Initially, I started
part time while I worked another job. I felt inspired. I felt I could always go back to a different
field if I needed to bail out of my business. So I started with a small loan from my Dad. I had
read a few times that a significant percentage of businesses failed within the first year. I didn’t
want to be a first year statistic and set a goal not to be. If I could get it past the five year
mark without failing I thought that would make me a successful business person. I did just that. I
made it up to the 6th year of my business and found myself working too hard and not earning the
income I once earned in the business.
I had an experience with
an ungrateful customer who did not appreciate all that I had done to fix their computer. I did
everything to satisfy this client but there was nothing that would satisfy them.
After that I didn’t want
to do the service side of my business for quite sometime. I experienced too much pain from this
one-time customer. Now I really didn’t understand energy or the Law of Attraction back then as much
as I do now. I took the customer’s last conversation in my mind and played it over and over again.
It kept causing me pain but I kept listening to it as a part of my reality or believed it to be a
truth.
Don’t we do that to
ourselves? We replay what one of our “devils” says over and over again. Don’t we feel belittled and
sometimes go as far as psychically torturing ourselves or feeling ultimately rejected because we
keep playing their conversation, yelling, moaning in our own head?
Who is the devil you
know?
Isn’t it the person or a
situation that doesn’t treat you the way you want to be treated?
Sometimes it starts
slowly. Sometimes it happens fast. Sometimes it is at the end of a relationship.
Sometimes it’s in the middle. Sometimes our devils appear during the bad times. Sometimes they seem
to have created the evil in our lives at just the wrong time. They are the boogie monster we have
feared!
I have had friends tell
me that their ex-partners, ex-spouses, ex-bosses were like the devil to them. Some of them actually
refer to them as Satan by name.
If we look at the
chemicals in your brain concerning the devil you know versus the devil you don’t, we find that we
associate more pleasure to even someone who might have lied and cheated, but we still had some sort
of warmth with from the past rather than expose ourselves to the unknown of the next devil. We feel
or believe rather unconsciously the next devil could be much worse than the last devil. Though we
don’t logically believe that necessarily we are in emotional upheaval about our past known devil or
devils.
How can the devil you
know that you have been hurt by be someone we go back to, wish for, desire, and dislike all at the
same time? We put feelers out for someone else in our life and yet we haven’t resolved our past
energies about our past devil or devils.
We find ourselves
fantasizing about the life we could have with our past devils. We imagine they have changed and
sometimes even convince ourselves to go back to them for real and find out all over again that the
devil you know is still the devil you know and you still don’t want them – except when you
do.
How does Law of
Attraction work in all this?
Whenever you settle for
someone or something in your life you vote with your energy that this is what you choose. Now this
may not be what you desire or truly want but it is what you know, and so it is what you
choose to have in your life.
A friend of mine over 15
years ago explained something to me that made sense then but makes even more sense to me now I know
about how to use the Law of Attraction.
When you avoid or resist
a situation by actions you take you actually already feel the situations you are resisting or
avoiding. At first I didn’t believe her but as I thought about it at that time it seemed to be
true.
Now today after learning
for almost 10 years about energy, assumptions, states, and what many call the Law or the Law of
Attraction that whatever devil we feel bad about, contemplate, avoid or resist we actually are
attracting to us even if we don’t want or desire it.
If I tell you that I
have funds of $50,000 to give to you for your ultimate vacation, would you contemplate what’s wrong
with this picture or would you start planning where you are going? Would you decide on where to go
or would you just leave the whole trip up to chance. Wouldn’t you want the best experience? And so
you would gather your family or friends or your loved ones who you would want to go with you and
then plan where you are going.
Whether it be Hawaii or
Italy it would be a place you and your loved ones would want to go. You wouldn’t list all the
destinations you don’t want to go, would you? You wouldn’t have as your main focus what you didn’t
want to experience, right?
Law of Attraction or the
Law is exactly like planning a vacation but year around and every moment in time. Law of Attraction
lets you enjoy experiences that you contemplate as yours now or what you are expecting in the now
or near future. It isn’t a respecter of persons. It doesn’t see your past and make a choice what it
will do for you. Just like the money for the vacation – the Law of Attraction and the money don’t
care what you feel, believe, assume, or what state you enter into.
They are both ready for
you to choose a place you want to go to. It could be a present habitual place you feel stuck in; it
could be with one of your devils you know, or with a new devil you don’t know. The Law of
Attraction, the Law, or money just doesn’t care how you use it at all.
You already have all
that you need to change, renew and transform your life – you have been using it all of your life.
In fact you are the biggest expert on your own use of how you think, feel, and believe. You can
become even a bigger Master of the Law of Attraction if you just become more aware of how and when
you tap into your feeling, believing, and assuming energy and continue to do so each new
day.
A Master practices
certain habits daily and those habits help them continue becoming more aware of their unconscious
and conscious choices.
The Secret lies not in
some magical formula but in learning that you are the Captain of your Soul, Dreamer of your
Destiny, Fashioner of your Future, Creator of your Conception, and Maker of your Movie.
Once you learn that the
universe responds to your remembering you are the creator of your life by thoughts, imaginings,
assumptions, feelings, beliefs and inner conversations then you start with the only place you can
start from – your inner world.
Your inner world is made
up of the stories about who you are that you have told yourself over your lifetime. You must
fundamentally change your reality from someone who is acted upon who has very little power to
someone who acts and has the ultimate power of choice and their own perceptions.
What are
perceptions?
From the online
dictionary, www.Encarta.com we find the definition of
perception: neurological process of
observation and interpretation: any
neurological process of acquiring and mentally interpreting information from the
senses.
A little bit technical
but what does it mean? It means that what you observe and interpret as your reality through all of
your senses and experiences is your reality. You take
the data of what you believe as a young child, young adult, and today and interpret what things
mean to you and about you.
Taking in data and
creating meaning out of your life through your senses is what you do all the time. You create
perceptions based on the information you gather, your assumptions, your beliefs, your influences,
and how you interpret it. As you grow you take a very limited view as being a child and must
interpret what things mean. Parents or guardians try to protect us physically, emotionally and
spiritually by passing on their beliefs to us as children. They do their best for what they know.
They teach us what they believe by their words and actions.
Many of our caregivers
teach us that the priority is protection by scanning the environment for what is wrong in it. They
teach us to create protection from the outside forces. Cars, dogs, spiders, muggers, bad people,
and electric shocks are just a few things we are warned away from. As you grow bigger you
experience more painful experiences by doing things you probably shouldn’t or don’t know
about.
As you grow from a small
child to an adult you are mainly emotional. You make attachments based on emotions and what those
attachments mean. That includes perceptions. Because you have really only a very emotional mind at
a younger age you do not reason out things usually before age twenty-five or so. If you were lucky
to be emotionally bonded to someone that you trust who makes you feel safe, you tend to adopt their
beliefs, assumptions, and perceptions about yourself and life.
Many times before
twenty-five years old we become so emotional our brains find behaviors, perceptions and stories
that help us cope with what is going on in our lives. There are times we have overpowering
emotional environments as we grow up, and having an emotional bond with a parent, friend, teacher,
or lover makes all the difference to our emotional lives. Sometimes when caregivers or parents are
not safe to be with such as people who emotionally blackmail you for love, control, or power over
your decisions, you form poor perceptions of yourself emotionally. As we cope with the overwhelming
emotions we tend to make stuff up about others and ourselves to handle the stress that is coming
into our environment and life.
Now can you be fooled
into believing that things are true when they are not? Did you ever believe in a Santa Clause? Did
you ever believe in the Easter Bunny? The Tooth fairy?
Perceptions about
yourself rule your world. Perceptions about your body rule your ideas of your body. Most people
have not exactly looked at their perceptions as their rule makers.
So how do we know what
our perceptions are?
It doesn’t seem easy to
really know because we have a lifetime of perceptions from pre-birth to our present age. If you are
older you tend to have more perceptions about what you CANNOT do. We create limitations in our lives as we grow up in order to be safe and
protect ourselves from the wrong things in the world: the wrong religion, the wrong social skills,
the wrong amount of money, the wrong neighborhood, the wrong career and the wrong
__________________________________ for you. When you come from a place that something is wrong as
the basic assumption, you create with your perception a filter that there will be something wrong.
You can see and feel it as whatever you want, but you have a tendency to see what’s
wrong.
As I grew up I found
reading to become my passion at the age of twelve. I was in no means a book worm. I did find that
there were many worlds I could discover in my life if I just read books. So I started a life-long
passion for reading. As I was young and had young dreams I kept charging past my limitations based
on the books I read. When I read that I could be anything I wanted I really wanted to believe it.
At age thirteen I started to get excited about how people behaved and why. So exciting for me to
discover and figure out why people did what they did. That lead me to start coaching people early
in my life to help them break out of their limitations.
As I got older I started
letting go of many limitations of my preconceived ideas, perceptions and assumptions. The more I
studied other people the more I applied it to myself. I liberated myself from many limitations of
my life because I had a new perception of who I was and what I could do. I find that with each new
limitation we discover and let go of, we discover much more that we have made up about ourselves to
let go of again.
Now what to do about
your limited perceptions?
Let’s make a new
assumption – a new perception if you will.
What would be something
that would help you globally tap all your limited perceptions so they can be rewritten the way you
want?
What is a broad
assumption that will help you do that?
I can think of a
few.
One of my discoveries
was from a book called One by Richard Bach. It’s a
great story about love. One of the points he wrote about is experiential in nature. I had an
awakening about the point that I took months to process and take in as a new assumption and
perception.
The point was this: ALL
THERE IS IS LOVE!
Now how does that fit
your perceptional filters? Do you run to the nearest paper to read about the terrorist bombs and
say that can’t be right?
Please understand as you
put on this perception and let Law of Attraction or the law act on it –You start to create the
world that ALL THERE IS IS LOVE!
As I remember right
that Gerald G.
Jampolsky wrote about in Love is Letting Go of Fear that there are only two things: a cry to be
loved or a desire to give love. Now if love is all that
there is and everyone is either crying to be loved or showing their actions of loving someone how
does that change your perception?
So if you can put on the
perception that all that there is is love how would that affect your day? Would you see your
significant other desiring to love you or craving love from you? Would you act differently with a
rebellious teenager or rebellious co-worker? With this perception what would you do differently
with your actions?
Stephen
Covey writes about in 7 Habits
of Highly Effective People about a time when he got on a subway and had a father and his
children get on after him. They were loud. They were a disturbing force to those on the quiet,
peaceful Sunday morning on the subway car. Stephen was uncomfortable about the kids who seemed to
be out of control. It was hard not to be irritated by the rambunctious children. The father wasn’t
paying any attention to the kids or their acting up in public at all. Stephen was concerned and
almost judgmental about the children running all over the subway car. Stephen turned to their
father and said “Sir, your children are really disturbing a lot of people. I wonder if you can’t
control them a little more.” This father looked up and
becoming conscious of the situation for the first time said “Oh, you’re right. I guess I should do
something about it. We just came from the hospital where their mother died about an hour ago. I
don’t know what to think, and I guess they don’t know to handle it either.”
Once he saw it
differently he had sympathy and compassion for this man. Just having another perception does change
how you respond and act.
So let’s walk you
through the devil scenario. You have someone you got treated badly by but find yourself still
attracted to them or someone like them.
What could you do for
yourself with the perception that all there is is love?
Could you actually do
them a favor by loving them from afar? Could you realize that you have a past perception that makes
love scarce in your life and that you don’t have to settle for people desiring love but unable to
give it to you? Would you treat yourself differently?
What would change the
attraction for you within to the devil you know?
_____________________________________________________________
What perception or broad
assumption would you need to shift into so you can actually give yourself the love you deserve and
desire and attract it by loving yourself first?
When you come from a
place you have abundance of love in your world and don’t accept past unfulfilling relationships,
job, people, and situations, you choose to love yourself first. Seeing yourself as an infinite
creator of love or anything you want gives you a new perspective. Each new perspective opens doors
into your soul so you can tap into the powerful soul force that knows.
Take anything that is
bugging you in your life and look at it differently. Look at it from another’s perspective or a
friend’s perspective and see what you can do to reveal to yourself a new way to perceive or assume
it.
What for you would
change your perspective about a sticky situation in your life where you can now take control of
yourself and make a new meaning out of it?
My old perception:
_____________________________________________
My New Perception:
____________________________________________
How do I feel
differently inside with this new perception?
Is it more empowering
where I feel in control of my own life?
Does it feel like a
win-win for all involved?
Can I make progress to
the next level of my life with it?
What else can I do to
make my life wonderful?
What other perceptions
can help me make my life the best I have ever had?
What perception do I
need to give up so I can gain a much better life with my new perceptions?
What can I do to
perceive and believe I have power over my life and risk going into the devil I don’t know
“place”?
Can I mentally rehearse
over and over again what I want on the inside with positive intentions of already having it? Will I
do it until I have it in my life?
Take the devil you have
known and let those people, situations, and circumstances go so you can replace them with new more
positive, better for you, wonderful circumstances, and situations in your life.
Take the step out of the
box of your past and leap to another more perfect perception and path for you to enjoy and
embrace.
Let go of your past
Devils and they will let go of you by lack of attention. Your most persuasive passion can lead you
through the unknown by trusting that you will be in a much happier, safer, much more satisfying
place by walking into the unknown.
Trust your
intuition. Recently I found that because I followed my
path into my passions that the other two paths I was considering would have come to a very quick
end in the last 6 months or even sooner. Learn to trust yourself.
Your spirit knows what
to do to take you where you ultimately want to go. Trust that your life will be more fulfilling.
Trust yourself. Trust that there is an avenue for you to have all the things you desire by letting
go of the past, by letting go of the devils you know, and by leaping into trusting yourself in
finding your path. Believe in yourself. Love yourself
and go for the most passionate life you can have. You truly can have it all. Trust. The Law of
Attraction will be delivering to you a new vibration with each new perception you create that is
more empowering and joyous to you. The universe on the outside responds to you on the inside
instantly. As you change your perceptions you will be in a whole new vibration to attract what you
truly desire and ultimately want to experience within your lifetime.
Let go and let the
universe bring to you the delivery of your highest good and goals. Using the Law or the Law of
Attraction isn’t about struggle; it is about knowing what you want and accepting it as yours
already.
When you watch the end
of a movie or read the last pages of the novel you relax because no matter what is in the filler in
the mean time, you know already what the end game is and how it is being played.
When you go to the end
of the scene of your own life where you are enjoying your new mate, new perception, new friends,
new family, new love, new life, or a new world for you – you already know what to expect. Expect
it, and no matter how much drama or events or things might happen you still know the end scene and
the Law or Law of Attraction will bring it to you in a way you may not know of. The ways and means
don’t matter. You know the end feeling and feel the scene as vivid as anything else in your
reality.
The law or the Law of
Attraction works to bring you the perfect ending for each ending you intend and feel as true.
Trust. Trust you can have what you believe you can have and let the universe deliver it to you from
the inside to the outside. From the unseen to the seen. To the invisible to the visible. Trust.
Trust. Trust.
Gary
Nordgren is The Law of Attraction Business Coach. You can reach him
at www.PersistentSuccess.com to transform your business or income.
He has lead many Tele-Workshops and Classs on Law of Attraction and Neville’s Principles that are
in recorded format on www.LOA-U.com. He also creates new Workshops and also FREE LIVE
Tele-Seminars and Free LIVE Workshops through www.Persistentsuccess.com He is the founder of The Neville Project at www.NevilleLectureHall.com
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